It is beyond my understanding or logic hearing a man, specifically, state "I'm trying to get myself together", but continue to entertain and pursue women. My only question for this particular breed of man, those who find it pleasing to invite women into their struggling arms, simply, why?
Please take a moment and ponder; if your journey is a difficult one, have you considered the likelihood of increased struggles with a lady in your life? If your life is inundated with challenges, please clear the roadway before signaling for a companion.
But to press deeper, I find it more puzzling to witness women who considers a guy who are incapable of managing his own life, but delight in the idea of creating life with him. Why ladies? Is it really that difficult to recognize how unwise you appear when parading around with a child; a new innocent life, born into the arms of one who call himself a man, but unable to solidify a stable foundation?
If a man is struggling solo; believe me sister, "your presence alone, dinner and a pair of discount shoes may tip the brother over" ... So how can you expect this type of fella to govern and lead a family?
We are not created to design our men, but to encourage his goals and support his dreams. He has to “Make” himself. It’s not for us to create him. His foundation should be visible and substantiated prior to seeking to gift you with the burden of supporting another life 100%, "he should be ready and capable of sharing parental responsibilities"
Some may stumble but quickly recover and continue on the pathway to his destiny. Those who lay down waiting for you or anyone for that matter, to stretch out a hand and enable him, should be left to pull up on his own two hands.
Strife is like poison in a relationship. The combining of two struggling adults is like throwing kerosene over smothering flames. Please enlighten me; why is it difficult to ascertain the importance of attaining individual security prior to joining the life of another, and certainly prior to creating a new life?
Men, please practice self control and focus on “preparing and stabilizing” for your future rather than seeking to couple up, if you have nothing more to offer than a “stiff one”. Surprisingly, some of us are fine without that; especially, "when the owner lacks value"...
A stabilized and secure woman prefers a partner who mirrors her strength and capacity. Therefore — tenacity and diligence is required to form the characteristics of this man; one who oozes devotion and consistency.
Sorry guys, for those who are “still trying to make it” with little or no visible progress, save the sob stories for the ears of those who might enjoy strife. For that particular type, little requirements are necessary, and walk-ins are usually welcome.
For the confident and perceptive woman, appointments only please. Do keep in mind however; all credentials are thoroughly reviewed before offers are accepted...
With Love and Sincerity!
With Love and Sincerity!