Ever known people who seemed to want you to fail? Who couldn't celebrate in your successes, but seemed to enjoy tearing you apart behind your back, and maybe even right to your face? Well, guess what, this can actually be a great thing!
(It's The Sand That Makes The Pearl...)
FACT ONE: Some People in Your Life Would Like To See You Fail
Ever known people who seemed to want you to fail? Who couldn't celebrate in your successes, but seemed to enjoy tearing you apart behind your back, and maybe even right to your face? Well, guess what, this can actually be a great thing! The trick is to learn how to let these limiting views of yourself and your own capabilities and potential roll right off your back and serve as further motivation for you to become all that you imagine you can be. I know how difficult this can be because I've had to do this myself many, many times in my own life. Although it certainly wasn't easy at first, each time such negative projections and distorted perceptions cast onto me by select others became 'the sand that made the pearl' — I grew even stronger and only benefited from the criticisms and negative assessments and judgments thrown my way. Perhaps you have had this experience at some point in your life as well. Or perhaps you, like many of us, fall prey to the 'inner critic' that lives in your head and tells you that you are a failure and will never make it in life. Are you willing to ignore, even stop, those kinds of negative, critical, self-berating thoughts as well?
The below (brief) video from 'Project Life Mastery' provides some good reminders and tips on how to deal with criticism and negativity so that you don't let other people's limiting views of you get in the way of your success:
"Become comfortable with discomfort..."
[Note: The speaker in this video uses strong language now and then — RCM]
FACT TWO: Very Few People Will Acknowledge You For Your Success and Accomplishments
Once you begin to realize your long-held goals and dreams and the more expansive vision for yourself and your life you have been cultivating, you are unlikely to be acknowledged for your successes by very many people, either. So now that we've gotten that out of the way, take a deep breath and read this article by *Leon F. Seltzer that discusses why people don't (and aren't likely to) acknowledge you for your accomplishments and successes so you can start letting go of the idea that being acknowledged by others in your life or within the media (including social media) matters — because in the end, although it is nice, it actually doesn't. What matters is that you are able to acknowledge yourself for expanding beyond limiting views and ideas that others may have about you, and that you may have about yourself. And in the end, that's success, in my book.
And remember: "Don't let the bastards get you down!" -Rebecca C. Mandeville, MA
- Speak Your Truth & Stand Your Ground...
Rebecca is currently authoring a book, ChainFree Living: How To Break Free From The Chains Of Your Past And Step Into An Awakened NOW, which she anticipates being published in 2017.