How to function even if you don't want to
You made a pact in front of God and men to have and to hold, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do you part. You assumed a perfectly normal assumption of getting old together. You love each other; you have no doubt whatsoever about it. Both of you have been through so much, you shared happiness, joy, trials and made sacrifices for each other. The marriage was not perfect by all means. There were trials…frustrations…temptations…But you were steadfast in your love and commitment.
And then, he’s gone.
The person you spent most of your life with, the person who knew you best, your best friend, your confidante, your love. Whether he was taken by any cause – sickness, accident, human cruelty…whatever the cause was, it brought out the same result – he is gone. Permanently gone.
Dealing with spousal bereavement as demonstrated by numerous studies is definitely over the stress scale. If you have been bereaved by a spouse then you know for sure that whoever it is that said “loss gets easier in time”, was a liar. Every waking minute you will probably feel as if no amount of torture will make you snap out of these feelings of grief. Before you even knew it, you’ve gone under and depression strikes that causes you to go through a much more prolonged feeling of sadness. You haven’t even realized you’re under. But if you are already reading this ebook, you’ve already realized you want help. Whether you have acquired this book on your own, or someone close to you pushed it in your hands, you’ve come this far. I hope I could get you through this. If I am with you right now, I would be just one of the many faces. I wouldn’t know the right words to say to you that would matter to you. I would be just one of the voices. You would have just shut me out of your mind thinking I wouldn’t have any idea of what you are going through.
But with this ebook, I would be able to guide you. You don’t have to read through it in one sitting. You may just want to browse over the topics, bookmark it and return back every now and then. Getting out of depression is a process. It is not a flick of a finger situation. But you’re here. Pat your back. You made the first step.