What if humans gave honest, immediate feedback regarding how they feel about someone's approach toward them, like horses do? Do you think any of our relationships and dialogue with each other would change?
Horses give immediate feedback regarding how they feel about somebody's approach. But humans are less likely to be so honest, especially if there is a power discrepancy in the relationship. What if humans gave honest, immediate feedback regarding how they feel about someone's approach toward them, like horses do? Do you think any of our relationships and dialogue with each other would change? How are you approaching people today?
Horses are such wonderful mirrors and teachers for us humans, in part because they are emotionally honest and incapable of lying or hiding their natural reactions and responses to life — including people. If you approach them in an intimidating, non-respectful manner, they will show you in subtle or even extravagant ways that they do not like this. They may turn or walk away from you quietly, or even become aggressive, rear, or kick out at you. Suggestion: Notice how you are approaching people this week: Does your verbal and/or written 'style' invite those you engage with to relax, trust, and open up? Or are they more likely to close down and feel a need to defend and guard themselves against you? Do they feel heard, respected, accepted, valued, and appreciated by you? Or shamed, blamed, dismissed, misunderstood, taken for granted, or judged? Lastly: Are you willing to adjust your approach if you sense that the one you are taking is not working for those you are interacting with?
Rebecca C. Mandeville, MA