It’s just a bit astonishing to see someone you once knew has become this whole OTHER person, physically. But it’s also another naked fact of life: Unless we have a plastic surgeon on speed dial, we don’t tend to get prettier or more handsome as we grow older. lmr
It’s so good to reconnect with old friends. Nothing quite beats that feeling of having shared many of the same experiences and memories, laughed at the same jokes, feared those same fears and shared an affinity mixed with a rich and varied history we have with another person. Yet, in our mind’s eye, when we see or think of those old friends, it’s usually in the way they were, the way they appeared when we last saw them. We don’t always allow for time to do that sly and sometimes hideous THING it does to all of us: It ages and matures us to the point where we barely recognize each other anymore.
I took particular notice of this when I attended a funeral for one of the old neighborhood's elder women. Because she was so beloved, people came from near and far to honor her memory. It was a wonderful thing to see. Many of these people were faces from my childhood and teen years. I had not laid eyes on some of them in about 20, 25, hell, even 30 years!
After the ceremony, people were stepping up to me, as they do at such events. They seemed to know my name, to remember me vividly. Yet this felt strange because these were people who I didn’t know, had no recall of ever knowing, and it caught me by complete surprise. But the biggest surprise came when they REINTRODUCED themselves to me.
Meanwhile, all I could think was: Oh snap! Oh MY Damn! That’s YOU under all that?
No. I am not THAT rude! I would never say such a thing out loud. But my mind was SCREAMING! It’s just a bit astonishing to see someone you once knew has become this whole OTHER person, physically. But it’s also another naked fact of life: Unless we have a plastic surgeon on speed dial, we don’t tend to get prettier or more handsome as we grow older. We change. The body shifts and it morphs. The pounds appear. The gray hairs sprout. The wrinkles settle in… and we are no longer the hotness, or the serene beauty queens… and awesome Adonis boys of yesterday.
Sad but true.
So as I’m conversing with this person from my previous life as a young buck, I began to do a visual survey by looking for signs of the person I once knew.
That’s when it HIT me:
Do the people we haven't seen in years all develop chubbier faces? I mean is this to be our true fate: Fat-faced-ness?
Unless you happen to be naturally or unnaturally angular, maybe sporting a fatter, fleshier aspect is simply the way we tend to age. We don’t obsess about it… in fact, we hardly pay this much attention. However, when we see an unflattering picture of ourselves, and we silently recoil... then ummm... that's a problem.
Oh! That dreaded FAT-FACED-NESS!
And it is then that we are reminded of how time changes the mugs of those people we knew long ago, back when we were young and we all had thinner faces.
This may just become my new reference point to measure how long I’ve known someone. Example: Hell, we go back, waaay back to when we BOTH had skinny faces!
But having noticed that one old friend’s (once thin) head was now a BIG, cheeky ballooning dome, that was just the beginning. It seemed as if people would appear out of the proverbial woodwork to remind me of this strange and growing phenomenon. So many of my old school friends showed up and ALL of them sported these rounder, chubbier faces (yes, myself included)... even the formerly skinny people... and suddenly I was left wondering "What's up with this?"
Apparently this will happen to us all. No one is immune. It can be gradual… so very gradual as to be one of life’s more insidious occurrences. Change befalls us and we don’t even notice it. We’re too damned busy living our lives to pay any attention. And then, something happens, and it suddenly opens our eyes: “Oh my damn!” we silently think to ourselves:
What the hell happened to YOU?! Your face. It blew up, yo! It’s… like ... you just swallowed a damn pumpkin!”
And please believe I’m not only cracking on the rest of them. I fully own up to my personal bout of pumpkin-headed fat-faced-ness!
There are some days I’ll accidentally catch a glimpse in the mirror to find I'm repulsed... because suddenly I possess these mad puffy-verging-on-Dizzy Gillespie-type cheeks!
This is all very odd because, most of the elderly people I know tend to have thin, sunken-in faces. So, perhaps this is all a part of that whole middle-age-spread concept… and IF we live to become older and more elderly, we can at least look forward to a frailer face, and thinner physique.
It’s reached almost epidemic in proportion as it effects the people I know personally. When did it happen that so many of us became afflicted with this dreaded disease of: Fat-Faced-ness? It seems we are not our physical selves anymore… no… we just become these older people with BIG faces.
Don’t believe me? Go on, do your own visual survey. Trust me, it won’t always be pretty. But it will be LIFE!