Like any other newly married couple, I assumed that we were great together, knew everything about each other and were totally compatible. All it took was one rented kayak, one hour and two non-swimmers to break all my happy notions about my marriage.
It has been a little less than 2 years that I have been married to the most sensible, fun and amazing guy on this planet. Like any other newly married couple, I assumed that we were great together, knew everything about each other and were totally compatible. All it took was one rented kayak, one hour and two non-swimmers to break all my happy notions about my marriage.
A long weekend in Singapore is a brilliant opportunity to plan awesome getaways to exotic locations. Although the hotels and flights are a bit expensive but you can get a good deal if you plan in advance. Malaysia, Thailand and Indonesia are the most sought after places to go to. This time we were headed towards Nirwana Gardens Resort in Bintan, Indonesia. We took a ferry from Tanah Merah ferry terminal to Bintan Resort Ferry terminal in Lagoi, Bintan. After the 1 hour ferry ride and a 15 minute bus ride from the ferry terminal to the resort, we checked into the hotel to change into swimming clothes and headed towards the beach. Nirwana Beach Club has a wide array of water sports to choose from and the in-house guests also enjoy a discount.
The beach was a private stretch of white sand and multiple small boats and jet skis were parked near the shore. Quite a lot of people were in the water doing paddle boarding, jet skiing or just swimming.
Nirwana Beach Club
After much deliberation we decided to rent a Kayak for one hour. Both of us don’t know swimming and it was terrifying for us to venture out into the sea. Our guide assured us that it would be okay as we were wearing life jackets. He gave us a brief demo before we pushed our kayak into the open sea.
I was very excited but the next few minutes unfolded like a horrible nightmare. First we could not sync our paddles, and then we could not make the kayak move in the direction we wanted. We were paddling left right with no clue. We ended up going in circles for 5 minutes. It was quite comical now that I think of it. But at that moment I was scared. We were drifting more and more towards the open sea and my arms were hurting. Rowing requires a lot more strength than I had imagined.(Note to self : Should work out more)
So immersed we were in our own struggle that we crashed with a bunch of submerged rocks. That was the final straw. We started screaming at each other and blaming each other. I had never ever imagined that I would have one of the biggest arguments with my husband in the middle of the ocean but that is just what happened.
I wanted to give up then and there but my husband wanted to give it another shot. BTW, did I mention how amazing he is? Anyway, with renewed efforts we reached closer to the shore and decided to take a breather. I sat down on the beach with a thump and he joined me. We stayed silent for some time and then I asked him how did it go so horribly wrong? Were we not compatible? My brain was buzzing with adrenaline and questions.
We sat there for quite some time and had a lengthy discussion. This discussion changed the way we work together as a couple now. We learnt and understood so much about our marriage and each other in this one hour. Needless to say it brought us closer. I decided to share this experience today because I hope these lessons might help other couples or maybe even teams that work closely together. Don’t give up when things are going wrong. As a wise man said, “Don’t give up on people. That’s all we have got.”
Below are the important points we agreed on:
- Appointing a leader between us. Both must not try to lead.
- Trust each other and voice out concerns openly.
- If things are not working take a pause & reflect. Attack the problem again with combined force.
This is us after the huge argument.
We did go out into the water after this and we had a lot of fun. We even tried jet skiing and it was Awe-wait-for-it- some! My advice to all the new couples, do try out activities which you have never done before together. It will help you build trust and team work. Please please please leave a feedback if you liked this blog-post. I am just starting out and would love to hear about your thoughts.
Do check out my Instagram page for some awesome pictures of Nirwana Beach Club.
I am such a poser.